With all that this year has brought me, another big change is now presented to me since my last post. My living situation is changing and even though my dear friend and roommate of 13 years and I are parting ways in our living situation (I will miss the Will to my Grace, the Lucy to my Ethel and we’ll forever be friends), it is something I must embrace. It’s uncomfortable. It’s triggering loss and abandonment in me, and anxiety. Fears come like big waves at times and moments spark memories of the other losses over the course of this past year. Ouch, ouch, and… ouch.
Then again, there is hope. I have done this before, many times, in different guises. Somehow I am always okay.
And then again, perhaps this coming time of more space and more privacy and more quiet will be exactly what I need to move into the next phase of my art, deepen my spiritual work, and heal and create in ways I cannot yet imagine.
But when the sparks of fear come, I have to reach. I turn to music or art or nature. Any of these will lift me into a state of being and smallness and knowing that there is something so much greater than me carrying me through this lifetime. I do not believe in coincidences, however I do believe in free will. When the sparks come, I choose. Check in with my body first to see what I am physically up to because sometimes brain can’t think of details, or process and sometimes it needs rest. Sometimes blankness is best which is why music and art are easier than speech now. Most of the time. When the sparks come, I reach. Art museums, favorite nature walks, drawing, painting, guitar, singing in my own language, recording tracks on the cool Roland Quad Capture Douglas gifted me and was teaching me to use. I really miss his being in the world, so much more than I can say.
I am so small and this feeling under the big blue sky is the most helpful. That I am small. If I am small in the midst of this great big universe, then perhaps so are my challenges, at least for a while. Everything is temporary. Knowing that takes the sting away for just a bit. Then I reach again.